still pissed off at my lil bro...last night, I curled up on the couch ready to spend the evening watching telly with my boys...get a call from hubby (who is supervisor at lil bro's work) he asked me if I had spoken to lil bro...Nope...why?
Seems lil bro fell asleep at work...and was told to go home.
OK..bit of a long story, but will try and keep it simple. Lil bro is only 21(22 next week - not that it makes a different, cos he still acts like a bloody 16yr old). He's been working at the same place since he was 17. Good on him. BUT...he has in the past had a problem with alcohol, which has meant that in the past few years he's turned up late for work...not consistently...but say once (maybe twice) a year. He's also had a couple of occasions where he's fallen asleep at work - due to a hard night out on the town, not necessarily drinking, but just being out and not sleeping...but it all add up.
So what frustrates me is that he makes awesome money where he is. How many other 21 yr olds make just over $60k a year? And he's been making close to that since he started working there! But he loves to spend!! In the past year I have taken over his account and do all his banking for him and help him with his budget and also to get some sort of savings going...has been going well BUT he still spends money like it's water and doesn't really have anything to show for it...
He doesn't realise how good he's got it at this work place!! Everyone has spoken to him over the years, giving him advice, trying to help him...steer him in the right direction - but he still does what he wants to do...he's a good guy - huge heart (too big sometimes - forever shouting the losers he hangs out with!!) he just can't save his 'going out' for a weekend he has off work. He just has to go out on a thursday night. Depending on what shift he's on, like this week for example!! he'll finish work at 11pm on Thursday night, then Start work at 8am Friday - well...lil bro decided to go out anyway...and that's why he fell asleep at work.
So because, he does have a history of this...he's been demoted big time! Thank god he didn't loose his job! He's ben taken off the crew and is to work on the dock with the part timers...he'll still get his 40hrs. But that's it. A good 1/4 of his wages comes from the overtime and allowances for being on the crew - well he's lost that now. Not sure how long he'll be on the dock for - I imagine he'll have to prove himself...it pisses me off to think about it...couldn't even sleep well last night stressed about it!!
Part of me thinks 'good job - he needs to learn' but another part of me is super stressed that he's gonna loose this job all together - then what?? Grrrr!! he's more than a lil bro to me, I've had him since he was 10yrs old. he's like a son - one that won't bloody listen - or is that just young DUMB men for you??
Anyway, I'm really trying my best not to think about it. He's coming over at 10am today as I am using his van to pick up the sewing machine I bought of Trademe. I'm not looking forward to seeing him to be honest - I want to yell at him...but what use would that be? I want to advise him - but I have been...and what good did that do?? So other option is to bite my tongue...shut up and hope he learns from this himself. Yep - that's what I'll try and do.
*shakes off all the stress!!*
Good news...I get my sewing machine today - and the two doors I won, to make my cutting table out of. I'll prolly wait till my dad comes back and he can make the base for me - he's one of those awesome handy men type who just know how to fix anything and everything - huge contrast to hubby - who thinks he knows, and will try...but sadly - like his dad, is a real cowboy lol. But ask hubby about printing, newspaper printing and he knows everything!!
I'm not going to be buying the overlocker that I won - long story - but I'm ok. Will keep my eye out for another one on TM :) I'll just cut and sew what I can with my flat sewer at home and take it in to school to overlock :)
Oh, have decided it's time to get all my things together - visit my accountant friend this week and start my business. I was going to wait for the business section of the course I'm doing to come up - but why wait for them? I need to get started NOW. So that's on the top of my to-do list this week :)
2pm - thanks for the comment - don't know ya name sorry!! And I totally love what ya say - he needs to sink before he swims alright...*sigh* so we'll see :(
Also, to answer your previous comment...surimi is imitation crab meat lol...I make the best salads with it...lots of Mayo (so not for the faint hearted lol), finely chopped celery, spring onion, grated carrots, capsicum, cucumbers, halfed grapes, bit of pasta to pad it out...pretty much anything else that is in the fridge...everyone asks for my recipe - but I don't reallyhave one...just a secret...NEVER be stingy with mayo when making it lol.
5pm - my industrial sewing machine is set up and RUNNING SMOOTH!! Yay - one good thing about this weekend lol.
have actually had an great day. I went fabric shopping again this morning with miss 14 - bought her some fabric for a dress/tunic she wants me to make for her to wear to the movies next weekend...
bought some brushed cotton fabric to make some PJ pants for the both of us...bought about 3 other fabrics and about 10mts of some plain cotton fabric I scored for $1.50/m to make sample garments in, when i'm making more trickier items...lol.
Have decided to stay home this evening and sew...not sure what yet, just know that I'd rather stay home and sew than go out - gosh I'm getting old LOL. Hubby's still gonna go - his brother is going to pick him up soon. I'm also gonna do some baking tonight with the kids.
Oh this afternoon, I also went to my favourite $2/emporium shop...it's more than a $2 shop - they have every bloody thing you can imagine, I've seen vases, pots and other items with briscoes stickers on them, so they must also sell end of line goods from the major retail stores...it's one of my best kept secrets lol. So I bought some snips, elastic, pins...little sectioned container for my bobbins etc...some water paint for mr 7, bits and bobs for Miss 14...spent $48...god everything soon adds up!!
It's been really warm today - yes there is a very cool breeze, but you can feel the heat of the sun when ya sitting in the car and coming in through the house windows...but as soon as you open the door or a window to let some air through - it's like there is a blizzard outside lol.
10:30pm - well, after hubby and his bro left for the b'day party, the kids and I jumped in the car and went down to pak'n'save, did a little grocery shopping. Came home and made a yummy diner, friend chicken, gravy, mash potato with cheese n fresh cream, steamed kumara...felt like a bloody good sleep after eating that lot lol but managed to fight that feeling off and tidy the kitchen and whip miss 14 up some baggy pj pants...god they turned out great!! I think I'll go and buy the whole roll of the same fabric and make some to sell on TM lol. I'll take her pj pants into class on Monday and overlock them :)
Finished the night by making some uncooked fudge slice - recipe at the back of the cadbury cocoa packet - they have got to be one of the most dangerous foods ever!! You just can't stop at one small piece...and I've been super naughty - I iced it with chocolate icing - it doesn't even NEED any icing!! In fact it's sooo sickly sweet and fattening, it should be sandwiched between thick bread to make it go further LOL.
Anyway, I made it not too long ago, so just gave the kids a small nibble and told them to save it for tomorrow. Mr 7 had a good evening, I got him to do some painting - which he loved. His behaviour has been pretty good - so it was a reward for him.
I don't feel like going to the inlaws for lunch tomorrow - just tired and I've got so much cleaning up to do at home...I need to get that done, cos I'll be too tired during the week, especially now with league training starting up...*sigh*
Well...have had my shower and am now off to bed.
Oh...and as for my overlocker situation...thought I might ask my tutor on monday what she thinks about me just getting my domestic 4 thread overlocker serviced and just use that in the mean time till i can score a good one off TM...I bought mine new for just over $800 about 10 yrs ago...still goes but NEEDS a service as the timing is slightly out when I use it as a 4 thread, so have only been using it as a 3 thread - which isn't good enough at all for what I am looking at making.
Anyway...off to bed now...night night :)
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Boys tend to act like 16 year olds when they can get away with it. I love my little bro to pieces, but when I was 17 - I looked after myself. I bet you did too! He has to make his own mistakes. And he is finding it very easy to do that, cos he knows you are there to pick up the pieces. He may need to sink a little before he fights back and swims off!
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